What is consent?

Consent is permission. No one can touch another person’s body without permission. All partners must give consent for any sexual activity.

Consent Isn’t Just About Sex

Consent is required before any sexual activity and in many non-sexual scenarios as well. You need consent for things like:

• Kissing
• Hugging
• Sharing food
• Touching any body part
• Exposing your genitals
• Taking or sharing sexual photos or videos

Understanding Consent: FRIES

A fun way to remember the different parts of consent is the acronym, FRIES.

• Freely and Willingly: It isn’t consent if there is pressure, manipulation, or influence of drugs or alcohol.
• Reversible: You can change your mind about sex at any time and remove consent. Even if it is your long-term partner, even if you already agreed, even if you’ve done it before, or even if you’re in the middle of sex.
• Informed: You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent.
• Enthusiastic: Sex is about doing things that you want to do, not things you have to do! Enthusiastic can mean the difference between an ‘okay’ or ‘I guess’ vs a ‘absolutely’ or ‘hell yes!’
• Specific: You must be specific about what you’re asking consent for. For example, saying yes to kissing does not mean someone has consented to penetrative sex. Agreeing to hang out at someone’s apartment doesn’t mean agreeing sex—even if it’s 3:00 am.

A Lifetime of Consent